Apparently, the poor souls on this committee are looking for your input, dear reader. The LayMAN sees a juicy opportunity to spread homophobia far and wide. They are hoping that their little band will not only contact the committee but post their diatribes on the LayMAN's website as well. It appears we have ourselves a little pissing contest to see how many emails can be sent to this committee.
Here is why I am so snarky about all of this. We know what is the right thing to do.
- Marriage between same-gender couples needs to be legal (as it already has become in six states) and the Presbyterian Church and its clergy should be allowed to marry gay and lesbian couples. Period.
- We should have liturgy that allows us to do that. Period.
- We don't need bigoted busybodies taking us to church court for doing it. Period.
Since we have this committee who needs something to do, here is my email to them.
Dear Members of the Special Committee on Civil Unions and Christian Marriage:
I have been a minister in the Presbyterian Church (U.S.A.) for 17 years. During my ministry I have officiated at ceremonies for over 100 couples including gay and lesbian couples. I don't know if I am supposed to call these ceremonies between the same-gender couples marriages or not. They should be marriages in the eyes of the state in which they were performed and in the eyes of the Presbyterian Church (U.S.A.) They certainly were as holy and sacred as any other marriage at which I have had the honor of being an officiant. These couples need the legal protections that marriage offers.
The marriages for gay and lesbian couples are an important part of my ministry of pastoral care. It is an important part of my current congregation's ministry. To be blunt: It is time for the rest of the church to catch up. The Presbyterian Church (U.S.A.) has an opportunity to atone for its sins. It is a sinful organization that discriminates against its LGBT sisters and brothers--its own children.
I have put up with bullies my whole life from the playground to the boardroom. In the playground, gay and lesbian kids (or those perceived as such) are bullied with words (fag, dyke, queer) and too often with fists. In the boardroom clergy who advocate for equality are bullied with threats of reduced pledges, threats to leave the church, threats of church court cases. Sometimes these threats even materialize. The purpose of all of these threats and bullying is to keep gays and lesbians in the closet and to keep allies silent. It is discrimination and it is as ugly now as it has ever been.
The only way to stop bullying is to stand up to it. You as a committee have a chance to do that right now. The church has been bullied for the last 35 years by a right wing intent on controlling the lives of others and spewing hatred by hiding behind a few select verses in the Bible. I don't know if you have any idea how much pain, how many suicides, how many families have been torn apart by ignorance and fear that comes straight from the pulpit. Here is a common story from my neighborhood.
Frankly, I don't expect much from your committee. You likely will come up with some lame report that tries to pacify the right wing out of a desire for unity. In the meantime, a church that can't stand up to bullies will continue to allow its own children to be rejected and forced to live as second-class citizens.
Just in case there is a chance that you will do the right thing, here is what you need to do:
Propose that the 2010 General Assembly:
- Allow clergy in the six states (and in any future state) that have legalized same-gender marriage to sign marriage licenses and solemnize these marriages in the church.
- Affirm that clergy may consecrate marriages (in the eyes of the church) for same-gender couples even in those states that have yet to legalize same-gender marriage.
- Change the definition of marriage from one man and one woman to two people in all relevant documents.
- Modify the Directory for Worship to create marriage rites suitable for same-gender couples.
- Advocate for marriage equality throughout the United States.
The following is the bare minimum. To the moderates and liberals on this committee, you must not give in on this. At the very least, you must allow freedom of conscience for clergy and for sessions regarding pastoral care to LGBT people. This includes freedom of conscience regarding all rites and observances regarding marriage.
Rev. John Shuck, Minister
First Presbyterian Church
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